Lauren Bacall, one of Hollywood’s legendary leading ladies, recently passed away. Those of us, who have appreciated her work over the decades, felt a sense of loss – a passing of a golden era in Hollywood that will never be revisited, at least not in today’s world of shallow sensibilities.
“Who?” was the general reaction by today’s younger generation, when Bacall’s passing was mentioned. They didn’t have the slightest idea, not even those who professed to be film buff’s with large DVD collections. And why didn’t they know about her or the names of those stars she worked alongside, many of them now long gone? Because, as it was explained to me, “They weren’t part of my generation, so why should I care?”
So, why should I care?
Quite some time back, when video stores still existed, I remember trying to rent a movie with my then girlfriend, now wife, and her younger brothers. Again, the restriction was, it had to be something that was made during their lifetime, as anything before that couldn’t possibly matter. I remember picking up Al Pacino’s Serpico, but once again, this Sidney Lumet directed feature was released in 1973, and these supposed film fans were born in the late 80’s (even going as far back as a decade before they were born was apparently a problem in their conceited little minds).
Not too long ago I was playing a movie trivia game with my brothers-in-law and their now wives and the answer to one of the questions was James Cagney. I remember the complete look of incredulity on the face of one of their wives when she uttered, “How do you know that?” I have to admit that it saddened me to realize that someone as talented as Cagney could be forgotten.
I’m not of Lauren Bacall and James Cagney’s generation. By the rules of this younger generation’s belief system, I really shouldn’t know about either of those two actors, nor Gary Cooper, Dean Martin, William Powell, Errol Flynn, The Marx Brothers, and countless other entertainers whose work has entertained me over the years, along with the work of those who are my contemporaries in the entertainment field.
So, how do I know about them? Because I wasn’t raised to believe that it only mattered if it was part of my lifetime. My friends and I, we had our generational stars, both in film and music, but we weren’t raised to be a self-absorbed generation; we actually paid attention to our parents and grandparents, and allowed them to introduce us to those who entertained them in their youth. My Mother introduced me to The Marx Brothers and my Father to Abbott & Costello, and I can’t thank them enough. With my parent’s I watched the Thin Man series, Humphrey Bogart, John Wayne, and many others I can’t list here without creating a ridiculously long list.
In our teens we did have a bit of conceit regarding our own performers, but we still paid attention, and when we gained the maturity needed, we came to appreciate the efforts of those in the past. As a screenwriter, I’d say I benefited more from watching the movies of old, where they didn’t rely on quick cuts, special effects and all the bells and whistles to entertain, but on a well-crafted story and excellent dialogue (that’s not to say they didn’t made duds, but when they did it well, it was magical).
This new self-absorbed generation has taken their indifference further in how they relate on a human level. Digital media has taken over many of our lives, but for those of us who were around before it was a reality, we were taught how to communicate and conduct ourselves in polite society. Thanks to my Father’s outgoing ways, I can walk into any situation, with any generation and start up a conversation and relate to whomever I’m speaking with. The beauty of this, and not hiding behind electronic devices, is that I’ve discovered some truly interesting individuals with wonderful tales to tell. That little old man, sitting off in the park by himself, that you’re writing-off as being irrelevant, may just have lived a life, and gained a perspective, that’s worth listening to.
As creative individuals, my wife and my life are full of highs and lows; we’ve yet to truly break through to a point where we know we’ll be comfortable on a permanent basis – and we live with that, as we’re living the life we want. During those lows, we often take jobs to help pay the bills; recently we’ve been looking, but have found this new generation’s reliance on electronics and a digital lifestyle has taken the ‘personal’ out of job hunting. No one wants to talk to a job applicant; they just want them to send their resume over the Internet. My wife sent off a resume to a company and figured, as we’d be passing by this small company anyways, that she might just personally drop off a copy of her resume. The young receptionist looked dumbfounded by this, commenting that you had to apply online. When my wife pointed out she was passing by anyways and thought she’d just drop it in, the young receptionist had no idea what to do. My wife described a moment of awkwardness between the two of them, and left with her resume still in hand. At one time in life, my wife would have been credited with taking the initiative, and the resume would have been accepted, but not today, where personal interaction is not desired, but possibly feared. Why pick up a phone and actually talk to someone in person when you can text and email? These are means of communicating which remove the horror of actually having to talk with another live human being.
The process of digital job hunting has taken the ‘personal’ out of the process. My Father was a very successful salesman working for wholesalers. He had that knack when it came to communication, and even when he wasn’t selling, had the ability to communicate with others. It got to a point in life where I wondered if I could go anywhere without my Father knowing someone? What I didn’t know was that he loved people and loved meeting and talking to new people. If he was looking for a job today, based on his writing skills, he’d be hard pressed to get an interview; an impersonal resume over the Internet could in no way convey his true abilities. Dad was the kind of guy you had to meet to understand him and what he was capable of doing for you and your company.
In my lifetime, with the younger generation in my life, I’ve been confronted by the whole ‘social anxiety’ thing, in which a young person is finding it hard to get out there into the world; intelligent, personable young people, who are too reliant on the sheltered world digital media has provided them, and are afraid of interaction in the real world, person to person. I can understand this, as I was an extremely shy kid. According to my parents, when I started school, I hid under the teacher’s desk for a couple of weeks. I was shy growing up; it was hard for me at parties and such, but I learned to overcome that. Pursuing a career as a journalist certainly helped, as it was my job to meet new people every day and communicate with them, getting them to reveal information to me. I also got into some rock ‘n’ roll photography and found myself standing in front of crowds of 20,000 or more people trying to get the shot I needed for publication. I put myself in a situation where I either overcame my fears and anxiety or I’d fail.
In this world of digital media and electronics, I believe we’re fooling ourselves into believing we’re communicating better. Yes, there is communication, but we’re also hiding away. Not everything in life can be captured by the impersonal formation of words in an email or a text. In many ways, we’re removing the true personality from the equation; sure, you can get some personality into these forms of communication, but it only tells a small fraction of the true story, especially if it’s communication between two individuals who don’t know one another.
This digital generation are fooling themselves into believing they’re communicating better, when in fact they’re working towards isolating themselves more and more from the true beauty of the world, which is getting out there and talking one-on-one to your fellow human beings; the communication is so much better one-on-one and you’ll enrich your life in ways digital media will never allow.
As for who is Lauren Bacall? It’s time for this self-absorbed generation to take their heads out of the sand and realize the world that came before them mattered and has a great deal of beauty to offer up to them if they’re only willing to take notice. Discover the films of Lauren Bacall and you’ll be introduced to the films and careers of many others whom you’ll be glad you found. The past is a beautiful place with a lot to offer, as I’m sure will be the future, just so long as we remember it’s the human element that really makes life worth living – friends, family and even those acquaintances and chance meetings that enliven and enrich our lives.